The festive period is a time of joy, celebration, and an opportunity to spend precious time with our loved ones. However, it can also be a time of challenges, upset, and difficulties particularly if this is your first Christmas after a relationship breakdown, a Christmas without your children, you are in the process of separating or you are thinking about ending your relationship. As a family solicitor, I understand and have heard directly from my clients about the complicated situations, emotions, and issues that can arise during this period.

In this article, I hope to share with you some guidance and support on how to get through the festive period as best you can.

Here are my top five recommendations:

1. Recognise stress

It is important to recognise that the festive period can significantly increase tensions in relationships and families. Everyone wants Christmas to be ‘perfect’, which adds pressure. This, coupled with financial strain and family dynamics, can create a cyclone of emotions. You may find the stress makes you want to leave or end your relationship. My advice to my clients is not to make any decisions in a rush or in the heat of the moment, no matter how strongly you feel. Before you announce anything to your spouse/partner/children, wait until you have spoken to a family solicitor first. This is so you are aware of the implications, potential outcomes, and the options available to you. I have personally seen in some cases clients reconsider their position or next move after they’ve been given legal advice. If your spouse/partner is already aware, I’d still recommend you obtain advice – the earlier, the better, but a solicitor can help at any stage.

2. Plan ahead

If possible, try to plan ahead to make arrangements for Christmas and New Year to minimise last-minute conflicts or misunderstandings. This might involve having a discussion with your ex-spouse/partner about sharing time with the children or making alternative plans. If you can agree on arrangements, it will help reduce stress for both you and your children. However, if this is not possible, seek legal advice early to understand your rights and options.

3. Take care of yourself

It is essential to prioritise your well-being during this time. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family members who can provide emotional support. It can be helpful to take time for self-care activities and to engage in hobbies that bring you joy and relaxation. If things feel overwhelming, seek professional support, such as counseling or therapy, to help you navigate the emotional challenges. Remember it’s ok to need help.

4. Focus on your children

If you are a parent, focus on creating a positive experience for your children, despite the challenges you may be facing. Children often pick up on their environment, so it’s important to reassure them and maintain a sense of normalcy. If co-parenting, strive to communicate with your ex-partner in a respectful and cooperative manner to ensure your children can enjoy the festive season without being caught in the middle. Your children deserve a nice Christmas.

5. Seek legal advice

If you are facing family law challenges during the festive period, seek legal advice from a family solicitor. Understanding your rights, legal options, and the potential implications of your decisions can provide clarity and empower you to make informed choices. Lastly, remember you are not alone and the festive period will get better.

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